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	<title>The New Man Podcast &#187; Fighting</title>
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	<description>Advice for Men on Relationships, Dating, Sex, Career, Money, Power, Purpose, Inner Game &#38; Fitness</description>
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	<itunes:summary>The New Man Podcast is a 30 minute, interview-style show that provides an entertaining and often humorous way to get real world, practical advice on every area of a man&#039;s life: relationships, sex, dating, career, money, power, purpose, inner game and fitness.

The New Man Podcast dives into the topics guys are hungry to explore but typically only discuss after a few beers. In a nutshell, The New Man Podcast is personal development for guys who think self development is for pussies.

The New Man is for guys who want to attract the right woman without playing &quot;Pickup Artist&quot; games or seduction tricks. We explore how to have an exciting sex life while learning how to navigate the sticky world of relationships. The New Man helps men break out of their confining job and get paid to do what they love. A common theme in all shows is to help guys quit settling for less, find their purpose and live a passionate, meaningful life. How is this done? By getting a handle on fear and stop letting emotions get in the way. The New Man helps guys develop the best physical and mental practices to live a life with brains, heart, guts and balls.

A sample of guests who have appeared on The New Man: Ken Wilber, Dan Millman, Marcus Buckingham, Steve Pavlina, Shawn Phillips, Bill Harris, AJ Jacobs, Vernon Reid, Joel Harper, Sean Stephenson and Derek Sivers.</itunes:summary>
	<itunes:author>Tripp Lanier</itunes:author>
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	<itunes:subtitle>Beyond the Macho Jerk and the New Age Wimp</itunes:subtitle>
	<itunes:keywords>Integral, PUA, Purpose, Meditation, Advice, Men, Spirituality, Career, Sex, Money, Development, Fitness,</itunes:keywords>
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		<title>The Top 5 BEST New Man Podcasts</title>
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		<pubDate>Wed, 12 May 2010 18:29:51 +0000</pubDate>
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		<description><![CDATA[<h3>Are you new to The New Man?</h3>
<p>Not to worry, I&#8217;ve compiled this simple list of The Top 5 Best New Man Podcasts by category. Pick the one that interests you most&#8230;<span id="more-1581"></span></p>
<p><span style="color: #ffffff;">&#8212;&#8212;&#8212;&#8212;&#8212;&#8212;-</span></p>
<h2>Sex</h2>
<h3>Bryan Bayer: &#8220;Sexual Hangups and How to Overcome Them&#8221;</h3>
<p>Everybody&#8217;s got &#8216;em. So let&#8217;s talk about &#8216;em.</p>
<p><strong><span style="color: #ff6600;">&#62;&#62;</span> <a href="http://www.thenewmanpodcast.com/2009/08/tnm-075-bryan-bayer-sexual-hang-ups-and-how-to-overcome-them/" target="_blank">Click here to listen</a></strong></p>
<p><strong><span style="color: #ffffff;">&#8212;&#8212;&#8212;&#8212;&#8212;&#8212;-</span></strong></p>
<p><strong><span style="color: #ffffff;">&#8212;&#8212;&#8212;&#8212;&#8212;&#8212;-</span></strong></p>
<h2>Women</h2>
<h3>Alyson Schwabe &#38; Christiane Pelmas: &#8220;How to Navigate a Woman&#8217;s Emotional Minefield&#8221;</h3>
<p>I got so many emails from this one. It&#8217;s a game changer. We should&#8217;ve learned this stuff back in grade school. These shows saved marriages. Period.</p>
<p><strong><span style="color: #ff6600;">&#62;&#62;</span></strong><strong> <a href="http://www.thenewmanpodcast.com/2009/07/tnm-073-pt-1-how-to-navigate-a-womans-emotional-minefield/" target="_blank">Click here for part 1</a></strong></p>
<p><strong><span style="color: #ff6600;">&#62;&#62;</span></strong><strong> <a href="http://www.thenewmanpodcast.com/2009/08/tnm-074-pt-2-how-to-navigate-a-womans-emotional-minefield/" target="_blank">Click here for part 2</a></strong></p>
<p><span style="color: #ffffff;">&#8212;&#8212;&#8212;&#8212;&#8212;&#8212;&#8212;&#8212;</span></p>
<div><span style="color: #ffffff;">&#8212;&#8212;&#8212;&#8212;&#8212;&#8212;&#8212;&#8212;
<p></p></span></div>
<h2><strong>Purpose/Inner Game</strong></h2>
<h3><strong></strong><strong>Brian Johnson: &#8220;What Would You Do if You Weren&#8217;t Afraid&#8221; &#38; &#8220;Do You Have the Balls to Live the Life of Your Dreams?&#8221;</strong></h3>
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<p><span style="font-weight: normal;">Feeling stuck? Feeling uninspired? Listen to this pair of shows (they&#8217;re from a single interview) to light a fire under your ass. Brian Johnson, resident badass philosopher on The New Man lays it down. </span></p>
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<p></p></strong><strong><span style="color: #ff6600;">&#62;&#62;</span> </strong><a href="http://www.thenewmanpodcast.com/2009/02/tnm-050-brian-johnson-what-would-you-do-if-you-werent-afraid/" target="_blank"><strong>Click here for part 1</strong></a>
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<p><strong><span style="color: #ff6600;">&#62;&#62;</span> </strong><a href="http://www.thenewmanpodcast.com/2009/02/tnm-051-brian-johnson-pt2-do-you-have-the-balls-to-live-the-life-of-your-dreams/" target="_blank"><strong>Click here for part 2</strong></a></p>
<p><span style="color: #ffffff;">&#8212;&#8212;&#8212;&#8212;&#8212;&#8212;&#8212;&#8212;&#8212;&#8212;&#8212;&#8212;&#8211;</span></p>
<div><span style="color: #ffffff;"><strong>&#8212;&#8212;&#8212;&#8212;&#8212;&#8212;&#8212;&#8212;&#8212;&#8212;&#8212;&#8212;&#8211;</strong></span></div>
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<h2>Money/Career</h2>
<h3>Brent</h3><p>&#8230; <a href="http://www.thenewmanpodcast.com/2010/05/best/" class="read_more">Click here to read the rest...</a></p>]]></description>
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		<title>Does Having the Hots for Other Women Mean You Don&#8217;t Love Your Wife?</title>
		<link>http://www.thenewmanpodcast.com/2010/02/does-having-the-hots-for-other-women-mean-you-dont-love-your-wife/</link>
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		<pubDate>Thu, 04 Feb 2010 00:00:18 +0000</pubDate>
		<dc:creator>TheNewMan</dc:creator>
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		<description><![CDATA[<p>I just had this exchange with a New Man listener. Enjoy.</p>
<p><strong>He writes:</strong></p>
<p><em>&#8220;I&#8217;m a new listener as of December 2009. I love it. I have been reading professional development and self help books and audio for the last 2 years.</em></p>
<p><em>I would like to hear a show about marriage commitment. whether to marry or not. I love my girl, and I want to marry her soon. But I have a strong sex drive and sometimes my mind wonders. Is this normal for someone who genuinely loves someone? Do I need help?&#8221;</em></p>
<p><strong>My response:</strong></p>
<p><span id="more-1181"></span>Thanks for writing &#8212; it&#8217;s great that you&#8217;re enjoying the shows!</p>
<p>Marriage commitment and any kind of relationship commitment is a solid idea for a topic, too. I dealt with this for a LONG time in my previous relationship and I coach guys on this stuff, too.</p>
<p>I don&#8217;t have the complete picture for you, but from experience I don&#8217;t believe that a guy&#8217;s sex drive or admiration of other women should suddenly cease to exist. It&#8217;s not an indicator whether or not he loves his mate.</p>
<p>The only help I would suggest would be to learn how to &#8220;own your desire&#8221;. Good news is that&#8230; <a href="http://www.thenewmanpodcast.com/2010/02/does-having-the-hots-for-other-women-mean-you-dont-love-your-wife/" class="read_more">Click here to read the rest...</a></p>]]></description>
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		<title>How to Change Your Girl</title>
		<link>http://www.thenewmanpodcast.com/2010/01/how-to-change-your-girl/</link>
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		<pubDate>Tue, 12 Jan 2010 00:04:32 +0000</pubDate>
		<dc:creator>TheNewMan</dc:creator>
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		<description><![CDATA[<p>Here&#8217;s an email exchange I recently had with a New Man Podcast listener. Enjoy&#8230;</p>
<p><span id="more-1117"></span></p>
<blockquote><p>&#8220;Hello Tripp &#8211; I have been a listener of &#8221; The New Man&#8221; podcast for a while and I recommend to all of my friends, for about a year now, I have developed a passion for self improvement literature, and that has dramatically changed my life and the way I see things. One of the consequences of this changes is this beautiful girl I have been with for several months now, and she is the reason I am writing to you now. She is pretty, she is sweet, she has a good percentage of everything I always seeked for in a woman although I wish she was more self motivated and ambitious, she smokes, what I hate, she denies to go to the gym ( she is skinny ) and she has an addiction for sweets, If I am to build a lifetime relationship, I want someone who works hard for their health and someone who sees money and business in a smarter way than she does. I have bought her and Ipod and have been trying to get her into some self improvement stuff, but its not working. Can you help me out and give</p></blockquote><p>&#8230; <a href="http://www.thenewmanpodcast.com/2010/01/how-to-change-your-girl/" class="read_more">Click here to read the rest...</a></p>]]></description>
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		<title>TNM 074: Alyson Schwabe &amp; Christiane Pelmas Pt 2 &#8211; How to Navigate a Woman&#8217;s Emotional Minefield</title>
		<link>http://www.thenewmanpodcast.com/2009/08/tnm-074-pt-2-how-to-navigate-a-womans-emotional-minefield/</link>
		<comments>http://www.thenewmanpodcast.com/2009/08/tnm-074-pt-2-how-to-navigate-a-womans-emotional-minefield/#comments</comments>
		<pubDate>Tue, 04 Aug 2009 02:04:00 +0000</pubDate>
		<dc:creator>TheNewMan</dc:creator>
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		<description><![CDATA[<p>When you’re woman freaks out, do you buckle or try to make it all go away?</p>
<p>Do you prefer a passionate woman or a stepford wife robot?</p>
<p>And does your woman really support you or does it seem like she’s just another obstacle getting in the way of the life you want to have?</p>
<p>Alyson Schwabe and Christiane Pelmas are back for part 2 of our talk on how to navigate a woman’s emotional mine field.</p>
<p>This is part 2 of our in depth talk on how to approach tough topics with your woman. In this one, we learn a BIG lesson around how to deal with a woman’s “emotional storm”, how saying “yes, dear” is killing her respect for you and other tips for avoiding those big traps men often fall into.</p>
<p><a href="http://www.tripplanier.com/redpill" target="_blank"><strong>Click here for information regarding The Red Pill Weekend.</strong></a></p>
<p><span id="more-92"></span>In this episode:</p>
<ul>
<li>Don’t be afraid of your woman’s storm</li>
<li>How to go through something hard and come out okay</li>
<li>Why am I in this relationship?</li>
<li>Life with a woman is about storm</li>
<li>Storming is about being passionate</li>
<li>Do you want a passionate woman or a stepford wife robot?</li>
<li>Storming is to test a man, to see</li></ul><p>&#8230; <a href="http://www.thenewmanpodcast.com/2009/08/tnm-074-pt-2-how-to-navigate-a-womans-emotional-minefield/" class="read_more">Click here to read the rest...</a></p>]]></description>
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			<itunes:keywords>Dating,Fighting,Relationships,Sex,Women</itunes:keywords>
		<itunes:subtitle>When youâre woman freaks out, do you buckle or try to make it all go away? - Do you prefer a passionate woman or a stepford wife robot? - And does your woman really support you or does it seem like sheâs just another obstacle getting in the way of ...</itunes:subtitle>
		<itunes:summary>When youâre woman freaks out, do you buckle or try to make it all go away?

Do you prefer a passionate woman or a stepford wife robot?

And does your woman really support you or does it seem like sheâs just another obstacle getting in the way of the life you want to have?

Alyson Schwabe and Christiane Pelmas are back for part 2 of our talk on how to navigate a womanâs emotional mine field.

This is part 2 of our in depth talk on how to approach tough topics with your woman. In this one, we learn a BIG lesson around how to deal with a womanâs âemotional stormâ, how saying âyes, dearâ is killing her respect for you and other tips for avoiding those big traps men often fall into.

Click here for information regarding The Red Pill Weekend.

In this episode:

	Donât be afraid of your womanâs storm
	How to go through something hard and come out okay
	Why am I in this relationship?
	Life with a woman is about storm
	Storming is about being passionate
	Do you want a passionate woman or a stepford wife robot?
	Storming is to test a man, to see if heâs trustable
	The storm does not mean something is wrong
	Do not buckle to the storm
	If you buckle, she will take over your role in the relationship or look for some way to fill it
	Itâs not about winning a fight or dominating the scenario
	Sheâs entitled to her response and it has virtually nothing to do with you
	Donât take on her feelingsAnd donât defensively posture
	Stay curious
	We want to know that in our relationships, we can say anything
	Most common belief: Iâm the only one that has to deal with this
	Donât try to do it alone
	Get help with big problem areas -- find a therapist, coach or counselor
	Trust that your relationship can stand the test and actually grow
	Look at your partner as a team member, not as your opponent

Click here for information regarding The Red Pill Weekend.

About Alyson Schwabe, Psychotherapist - MA, CGT, LPC

Alyson Schwabe has been in the mental health and human services field since 1996. She received her BA and MA in psychology, and is a Licensed Professional Counselor with the state of Colorado. Alyson has 8 years of specialization training in Gestalt therapy, and is known nationally for her approach in teaching people to relate authentically and live with intention.Â Alysonâs theory and application are rooted in gestalt, developmental, energetic, and somatic psychologies, while her central philosophies are aligned with integral theory, human potential, and consciousness development.Â She offers real-world skills and actively helps you work out unfinished issues in the moment.Â  Alyson will help you make conscious, empowered choices so you are in charge of your life and how you live it. Â Alyson is most often found training the trainer, and is the support behind those that influence the masses. She provides on-location private intensives, facilitates workshops in the art of authentic contact, and teaches her approach at Naropa Universityâs graduate school of psychology. To reach her, you can call her directly at 303.960.7917 orÂ TherapistAlyson (at) mac (dot) com.

About Christiane Pelmas, LCSW

Christiane Pelmas, LCSW specializes in the re-wilding of the human soul and the cultivation of authentic expression through sexuality and intimacy. She maintains a private practice in Boulder CO where she works with couples and individuals in a variety of settings, teaches classes and facilitates groups. She can most easily be reached via email atÂ cpelmas@comcast.net or by phone at 303-449-8590.</itunes:summary>
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		<title>TNM 073: Alyson Schwabe &amp; Christiane Pelmas Pt 1 &#8211; How to Navigate a Woman&#8217;s Emotional Minefield</title>
		<link>http://www.thenewmanpodcast.com/2009/07/tnm-073-pt-1-how-to-navigate-a-womans-emotional-minefield/</link>
		<comments>http://www.thenewmanpodcast.com/2009/07/tnm-073-pt-1-how-to-navigate-a-womans-emotional-minefield/#comments</comments>
		<pubDate>Tue, 28 Jul 2009 02:00:00 +0000</pubDate>
		<dc:creator>TheNewMan</dc:creator>
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		<description><![CDATA[<p>Are you scared to bring up certain topics because you don’t want to cause a shitstorm with your girl?</p>
<p>Do you resent your partner for saying what you can and can not do?</p>
<p>And how is it possible that by avoiding conflict, you’re actually killing the relationship?</p>
<p>This week, Alyson Schwabe and Christiane Pelmas are on the show to talk about how to navigate a woman’s emotional minefield and approach taboo subjects or those conversations you’ve been avoiding.</p>
<p>In this episode we talk about addressing taboo and touchy topics with your woman. Whether it’s money, going on a weekend trip with the fellas or having anal sex to spice things up in the bedroom &#8212; navigating a woman’s emotional storm depends on YOU being confident in what you want and speaking that clearly. Alyson and Christiane lay out some amazingly valuable tips from a woman’s perspective to help you have a more satisfying relationship.</p>
<p><a href="http://www.tripplanier.com/redpill" target="_blank"><strong>Click here for information regarding The Red Pill Weekend.</strong></a></p>
<p><a href="http://www.tripplanier.com/redpill" target="_blank"><strong></strong></a>In this episode:</p>
<ul>
<li>“If I could just talk to her about this, things would be better&#8230;”</li>
<li>Fear that even speaking about stuff will set off a fight</li>
<li>Can’t talk about sex, money, health issuesHow to discuss</li></ul><p>&#8230; <a href="http://www.thenewmanpodcast.com/2009/07/tnm-073-pt-1-how-to-navigate-a-womans-emotional-minefield/" class="read_more">Click here to read the rest...</a></p>]]></description>
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			<itunes:keywords>Dating,Fighting,Relationships,Sex,Women</itunes:keywords>
		<itunes:subtitle>Are you scared to bring up certain topics because you donât want to cause a shitstorm with your girl? - Do you resent your partner for saying what you can and can not do? - And how is it possible that by avoiding conflict,</itunes:subtitle>
		<itunes:summary>Are you scared to bring up certain topics because you donât want to cause a shitstorm with your girl?

Do you resent your partner for saying what you can and can not do?

And how is it possible that by avoiding conflict, youâre actually killing the relationship?

This week, Alyson Schwabe and Christiane Pelmas are on the show to talk about how to navigate a womanâs emotional minefield and approach taboo subjects or those conversations youâve been avoiding.

In this episode we talk about addressing taboo and touchy topics with your woman. Whether itâs money, going on a weekend trip with the fellas or having anal sex to spice things up in the bedroom -- navigating a womanâs emotional storm depends on YOU being confident in what you want and speaking that clearly. Alyson and Christiane lay out some amazingly valuable tips from a womanâs perspective to help you have a more satisfying relationship.

Click here for information regarding The Red Pill Weekend.

In this episode:

	âIf I could just talk to her about this, things would be better...â
	Fear that even speaking about stuff will set off a fight
	Canât talk about sex, money, health issuesHow to discuss taboos
	Speaking your desire is the biggest topic
	Many people struggling being straight up with what they want in relationship
	Itâs a dealbreaker that things canât even be discussed
	We imagine how our partners will respond -- not based in reality
	Dating women with kids from a previous marriage
	Itâs not okay to speak your truth
	Quit assuming you know what your partner is going to say or do
	Joking âaroundâ the subject doesnât help you -- it hurts you
	Itâs not the topic that sheâs rejecting, itâs how youâre approaching it
	Not owning your desire has you come off as creepy, untrustworthy
	If she canât trust how youâre speaking about something, she canât trust how you may do it
	Fallacy: âYouâre responsible for my being satisfiedâ
	Drill down and get clear about why you desire this
	Make it right for having this in your life
	Donât let your shame stuff it for you
	Donât make it that sheâs not okay with it
	Deep down, are you okay with it?
	If youâre scared or timid -- be straight with that, bring that to the conversation
	The danger of cutting off or not owning your desire
	Cutting off what you want makes you less trustworthy
	She may not like the content but sheâll trust you more
	You have a choice in every situation -- you just may not like the options
	Whatâs more important to you? To live a lie or to in integrity
	Being in relationship with a whole person

Click here for information regarding The Red Pill Weekend.

About Alyson Schwabe, Psychotherapist - MA, CGT, LPC

Alyson Schwabe has been in the mental health and human services field since 1996. She received her BA and MA in psychology, and is a Licensed Professional Counselor with the state of Colorado. Alyson has 8 years of specialization training in Gestalt therapy, and is known nationally for her approach in teaching people to relate authentically and live with intention.Â Alysonâs theory and application are rooted in gestalt, developmental, energetic, and somatic psychologies, while her central philosophies are aligned with integral theory, human potential, and consciousness development.Â She offers real-world skills and actively helps you work out unfinished issues in the moment.Â  Alyson will help you make conscious, empowered choices so you are in charge of your life and how you live it. Â Alyson is most often found training the trainer, and is the support behind those that influence the masses. She provides on-location private intensives, facilitates workshops in the art of authentic contact, and teaches her approach at Naropa Universityâs graduate school of psychology. To reach her, you can call her directly at 303.960.7917 orÂ TherapistAlyson (at) mac (dot) com.

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		<title>TNM 003: Alyson Schwabe &amp; Reuvain Bacal Pt 2 &#8211; I&#8217;m Not Calling You Fat &amp; Other Difficult Conversations with Your Girl</title>
		<link>http://www.thenewmanpodcast.com/2007/12/tnm-003-im-not-calling-you-fat/</link>
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		<pubDate>Wed, 19 Dec 2007 16:31:00 +0000</pubDate>
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		<guid isPermaLink="false">332 at http://www.fallingfruit.tv</guid>
		<description><![CDATA[<p>In the previous episode we learned that being in a serious relationship doesn&#8217;t mean that you are cut off from what you truly want in life.  This week we continue our discussion with relationship experts Alyson and Reuvain and learn practical ways to communicate your desires to your woman.</p>
<p>Alyson even gives us a tip on how to approach your woman honestly, even if its something as sensitive as sexual attraction and body weight that has become a challenge to your relationship. Get the inside scoop on how to bring your relationship with a woman into the world of healthy differentiation, and feel the depth of connection that results.</p>
<p><span id="more-163"></span><strong>About Alyson Schwabe, Psychoterapist, MA, CGT, LPC</strong></p>
<p><img class="alignright size-full wp-image-736" title="g-alyson-schwabe-2284-SM" src="http://thenewmanpodcast.com/wp-content/uploads/2007/12/g-alyson-schwabe-2284-SM.jpg" alt="g-alyson-schwabe-2284-SM" width="178" height="171" />Alyson Schwabe has been in the mental health and human services field since 1996. She received her BA and MA in psychology, and is a Licensed Professional Counselor with the state of Colorado. Alyson has 8 years of specialization training in Gestalt therapy, and is known nationally for her approach in teaching people to relate authentically and live with intention.</p>
<p>Alyson’s theory and application are rooted in gestalt, developmental, energetic, and somatic psychologies, while her central philosophies are aligned with integral theory, human potential,&#8230; <a href="http://www.thenewmanpodcast.com/2007/12/tnm-003-im-not-calling-you-fat/" class="read_more">Click here to read the rest...</a></p>]]></description>
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		<itunes:summary>In the previous episode we learned that being in a serious relationship doesn&#039;t mean that you are cut off from what you truly want in life.  This week we continue our discussion with relationship experts Alyson and Reuvain and learn practical ways to communicate your desires to your woman.

Alyson even gives us a tip on how to approach your woman honestly, even if its something as sensitive as sexual attraction and body weight that has become a challenge to your relationship. Get the inside scoop on how to bring your relationship with a woman into the world of healthy differentiation, and feel the depth of connection that results.

About Alyson Schwabe, Psychoterapist, MA, CGT, LPC

Alyson Schwabe has been in the mental health and human services field since 1996. She received her BA and MA in psychology, and is a Licensed Professional Counselor with the state of Colorado. Alyson has 8 years of specialization training in Gestalt therapy, and is known nationally for her approach in teaching people to relate authentically and live with intention.

Alysonâs theory and application are rooted in gestalt, developmental, energetic, and somatic psychologies, while her central philosophies are aligned with integral theory, human potential, and consciousness development.Â She offers real-world skills and actively helps you work out unfinished issues in the moment.Â  Alyson will help you make conscious, empowered choices so you are in charge of your life and how you live it.

Alyson is most often found training the trainer, and is the support behind those that influence the masses. She provides on-location private intensives, facilitates workshops in the art of authentic contact, and teaches her approach at Naropa Universityâs graduate school of psychology. To reach her, you can call her directly at 303.960.7917 or TherapistAlyson (at) mac (dot) com.

About Reuvain Bacal, Psychotherapist and Relationship Coach


Reuvain Bacal, MAÂ is a psychotherapist specializing in menâs issues and couples counseling, and is a leader in the local menâs community. He has started and led menâs groups for over a decade, and has taught Group Dynamics and Leadership at Naropa University. He is a course leader for The Red Pill Weekend. Reuvain is passionate about helping men connect to their heart, balls, and authenticity. He lives in Boulder, Colorado with his wife and daughter.

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		<title>TNM 002: Alyson Schwabe &amp; Reuvain Bacal Pt 1 &#8211; Feeling Smothered? Learn How to Live Your Truth AND Be in Relationship</title>
		<link>http://www.thenewmanpodcast.com/2007/12/tnm-002-feeling-smothered-learn-how-to-live-your-truth-and-be-in-relationship/</link>
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		<pubDate>Tue, 18 Dec 2007 13:03:00 +0000</pubDate>
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		<description><![CDATA[<p>Does the traditional model for relationship feel limiting to you?</p>
<p>Do you feel like you constantly have to compromise your authenticity to avoid conflict with your partner?</p>
<p>We have, and we&#8217;re learning that it doesn&#8217;t have to be that way.</p>
<p>In this episode we&#8217;re talking with psychotherapists Alyson Schwabe and Reuvain Bacal, relationship experts and specialists in women&#8217;s and men&#8217;s issues.  They let us in on something the therapists call &#8216;differentiation&#8217; and what we think of as &#8216;the opposite of a shitty relationship.&#8217;</p>
<p>Listen as we learn what it looks like to lack differentiation and learn some techniques for how to get to a healthier relationship.</p>
<p><span id="more-164"></span><strong>About Alyson Schwabe, Psychoterapist, MA, CGT, LPC</strong></p>
<p><img class="alignright size-full wp-image-736" title="g-alyson-schwabe-2284-SM" src="http://thenewmanpodcast.com/wp-content/uploads/2007/12/g-alyson-schwabe-2284-SM.jpg" alt="g-alyson-schwabe-2284-SM" width="178" height="171" />Alyson Schwabe has been in the mental health and human services field since 1996. She received her BA and MA in psychology, and is a Licensed Professional Counselor with the state of Colorado. Alyson has 8 years of specialization training in Gestalt therapy, and is known nationally for her approach in teaching people to relate authentically and live with intention.</p>
<p>Alyson’s theory and application are rooted in gestalt, developmental, energetic, and somatic psychologies, while her central philosophies are aligned with integral theory, human potential, and consciousness development.&#8230; <a href="http://www.thenewmanpodcast.com/2007/12/tnm-002-feeling-smothered-learn-how-to-live-your-truth-and-be-in-relationship/" class="read_more">Click here to read the rest...</a></p>]]></description>
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		<itunes:summary>Does the traditional model for relationship feel limiting to you?

Do you feel like you constantly have to compromise your authenticity to avoid conflict with your partner?

We have, and we&#039;re learning that it doesn&#039;t have to be that way.

In this episode we&#039;re talking with psychotherapists Alyson Schwabe and Reuvain Bacal, relationship experts and specialists in women&#039;s and men&#039;s issues.  They let us in on something the therapists call &#039;differentiation&#039; and what we think of as &#039;the opposite of a shitty relationship.&#039;

Listen as we learn what it looks like to lack differentiation and learn some techniques for how to get to a healthier relationship.

About Alyson Schwabe, Psychoterapist, MA, CGT, LPC

Alyson Schwabe has been in the mental health and human services field since 1996. She received her BA and MA in psychology, and is a Licensed Professional Counselor with the state of Colorado. Alyson has 8 years of specialization training in Gestalt therapy, and is known nationally for her approach in teaching people to relate authentically and live with intention.

Alysonâs theory and application are rooted in gestalt, developmental, energetic, and somatic psychologies, while her central philosophies are aligned with integral theory, human potential, and consciousness development. She offers real-world skills and actively helps you work out unfinished issues in the moment.  Alyson will help you make conscious, empowered choices so you are in charge of your life and how you live it.

Alyson is most often found training the trainer, and is the support behind those that influence the masses. She provides on-location private intensives, facilitates workshops in the art of authentic contact, and teaches her approach at Naropa Universityâs graduate school of psychology. To reach her, you can call her directly at 303.960.7917 or TherapistAlyson (at) mac (dot) com.

About Reuvain Bacal, Psychotherapist and Relationship Coach


Reuvain Bacal, MA is a psychotherapist specializing in menâs issues and couples counseling, and is a leader in the local menâs community. He has started and led menâs groups for over a decade, and has taught Group Dynamics and Leadership at Naropa University. He is a course leader for The Red Pill Weekend. Reuvain is passionate about helping men connect to their heart, balls, and authenticity. He lives in Boulder, Colorado with his wife and daughter.

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