There’s so much discussion about the struggle for folks to find work, to get a job. And beyond that how can we expect to find something we truly love to do that will also pay the bills?

In the process of planning The New Man Life online training which starts next week, I clarified the mindset — the way to view the world — that can make a huge difference.

But first, let’s highlight the mindset that is holding so many back. Ask yourself, does this sound familiar?

“I need to GET a job.”

“I need to GET money.”

“I need to GET customers/clients.”

The problem with this approach — the “getting” approach — is that it’s focus is solely on one thing. You getting something.

People — you and me and everyone else — pay for what they value. And most importantly, we are compensated when we provide that value.

But the opposite is true when we are taking or getting. Go ahead and read that last sentence again. I’ll wait.

So what if?

What if instead of looking to GET paid for being told what to do we looked for ways to PROVIDE value?

Hmmm.

Then the next question is…

How do we provide value?

We provide value when we…

— Solve a problem or provide a solution to a problem

— Save someone (or an organization) time, energy or money

When we’re solely focused on “getting” for ourselves then we’re listening for orders. It’s the voice that yells…

“Just tell me what to do!”

In that mindset we’re not listening for opportunities — for problems to solve, for time/energy/money to save.

We’re not aware of the squeaky wheels that need grease. We’re not aware of the opportunities masquerading as complaints from others.

So let’s define your professional value.

Spend some time listening. What are the problems out there that need solutions? How could you help someone (or an organization) save more time, energy and/or money?

How could the solutions to these challenges overlap with something you enjoy doing?

Beyond that, how could these solutions be meaningful and truly beneficial to others besides yourself?

This is the path to providing true value. And it may be easier to do than simply finding orders to follow.

Think of it this way. There are two guys competing for the same gig. One guy is waiting to be told what to do. The other is taking the initiative, finding opportunities to improve a situation.

Which one would you hire?

And when things get lean again — and they will — the guy who provides true value won’t be waiting to ‘get’ something. His trained awareness will find a way to provide it.

And people pay for what they truly value.

The New Man Life is Closing Doors Soon

As I mentioned, The New Man Life online training is starting next week and we’ll be discussing topics like this as well as…

– Avoiding life’s traps

– Getting out of ruts

– Relationships that hold you back or propel you forward

– Mindsets that define The New Man

– Practices and tips that actually work

Each week we’ll explore a topic in full and then open it up for group Q&A.

I’ll answer your questions live.

If you can’t make the call, they’ll be recorded.

And the best part is you can pick your price for the course.

Repeat — you can pick your price.

Click here to learn more about The New Man Life — it starts next Tuesday September 20th.

Talk soon,

Tripp

PS Again, the course starts next Tuesday on 9/20/11. Click here to register for The New Man Life.

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After a Mistake This Big, Why Bother Living?

UPDATE April 19, 2011: Michael Kass was sentenced to 10 years in prison, 5 years of parole and 10 years of probation on April 6, 2011. Click here to read more.

What if you walked out the door one morning and the cops surprised you and took you to jail?

Imagine losing everything — your money, home, friendships, your reputation, your sense of pride. Would life still be worth living?

And what’s it like to stare down 20 years of being locked up behind bars?

This episode’s guest Michael Kass screwed up. His mistakes cost him and many others millions of dollars. Money aside, he’s lost almost everything he once valued. He’s even considered suicide.

As he prepares for the possibility of spending 20 years in prison, how does Michael find peace and liberation in the midst of incredible hardship? How does he endure this dark night of the soul? And how can you, the listener benefit?

I also share my own deeply personal experience with suicide.

Listen to this episode now to find out.

In this episode:

• Letting everyone — including yourself — down
• Losing everything — the house, money, career, reputation
• Terror of going to prison
• Shame
• The Dark Night of the Soul
• Life was supposed to be different
• Suicide — is life worth living?
• Playing the victim
• Freedom by taking responsibility
• How to deal with terror, anxiety and shame
• Spiritual bypassing

Continue Reading

As most of you know, I’m taking a summer break from The New Man Podcast (even though I’m creating something kickass to unleash upon the world soon — stay tuned).

In the meantime I don’t want to leave you hanging.

Recently Ray Brejcha and I caught up on the phone (remember how Ray interviewed me on The New Man last summer?) and as usual we had a lot of laughs while managing to go pretty deep, too.

Anyway, in this chat we talk about Mel Gibson, rage and how all of us has that crazy sombitch inside (yes — ALL of us).

We also dive into Ray’s recent experiment, what he calls “Camp Solitude” and how it can help you:

• Create more fun and adventure in your life
• Become more creative and free of life’s “ups and downs”
• Get through ANY life transition

Also in this talk:

• More about Mel Gibson, rage, losing your “shit” and the dark side of a man’s emotional world
• Why wine, masturbation and internet surfing is the equivalent to eating junk food
• How feeling “alone” is a “f***ing story” and why it has men show up needy with women and also professionally
• Discover how being on purpose and in relationships can actually be a burden, exhausting and get in the way of who you really are
• Hear specific practices designed to handle any major life transition form a grounded and centered place
• Discover the difference between “Solitude” and “Isolation” and why you should care?
• And much more.

>> Just click here to listen now.

(This link will take you to Ray’s Red Pill site)

Enjoy!