The game show contestant runs through a cheering audience up on to the stage. The host accepts the handshake and says, “Choose one of these boxes to win an exciting Cruise to Tulsa!”
Our contestant looks at the boxes and then out at the crowd.
“What should I do?!”
As if the crowd — which he was a part just a few seconds ago — has any authority about which box to select.
When it comes to life’s bigger challenges, asking ourselves, ‘What should I do?’ assumes a few things:
— There’s a right way to do it.
— There’s a wrong way to do it.
— The definitive answer is somewhere “out there.”
Wondering if we’re doing it the right or wrong way keeps us in a herd mentality. It’s asking, “How do I play the role better?”
It’s a form of defense. “I don’t want to screw this up.” And it’s a great way to shift the blame in case things do screw up.
There are far fewer folks with a creator mentality.
These folks are the ones that become irreplaceable. They are remembered after they’re gone. They inspire. They blaze new trails.
When it comes to navigating their own life challenges, creators understand that there is no right or wrong way. The answer isn’t bestowed by an external authority. The answers are found through experimentation.
Instead of focusing on what they “should” do, creators focus on what will help them create what they want:
“What will help me create $X per year so that I can do what I’m put on this Earth to do?”
“What would I do today to feel more lit up, more love, and more fulfillment even if it meant being uncomfortable from time to time?”