Entrepreneur Mindset: Blowing Up Our Lives to Make a Big Change
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Today we’re gonna talk about a myth I encounter a lot when I talk to guys who want to make what seems like a big change in their lives or business. And this myth has the power to keep guys stuck at the starting line their entire lives.
In case you don’t know who I am, I’m Tripp Lanier. For over 12 years I’ve spent thousands of hours coaching folks to get out of the rat race, become an authority in their field, and make a great living doing the work they were put on this earth to do. And for more than a decade, I’ve hosted The New Man Podcast which has been downloaded millions of times and can be found on iTunes or Stitcher. And for what I’m about to say, keep whatever works for you and discard the rest.
Ok. Back to the myth that keeps guys from ever going for what they truly want in life. The myth goes something like: In order to create the personal change or relationship change or professional change I really want, I would have to do something really scary or do something that would jeopardize my family or something that would turn my lifestyle upside down.
I’ve got news for you. This myth is total bullshit. It’s just classic resistance. Think about it… As long as we have this terrifying thing in the way then we don’t have to actually do anything to move forward. And by choosing to avoid this big scary thing for the sake of our family we get to look like the good guy. What a wonderful excuse!
Let’s look at this closer.
I recently worked with a guy who told me he had this huge burning desire to start his own real estate investment company, but by gosh he just couldn’t figure out why he wasn’t moving forward.
I asked him, “What do you think needs to happen before you can move forward?”
He said, “Well, I would need to quit my job. And before I can do that I have to have X amount in the bank so my family is okay. And I’m just not saving it quickly enough. It’s going to take years at this rate.”
I asked, “Ok. Well tell me this. What’s the first thing you would do after you had all of the money saved up, knew your family was safe, and had quit your job?”
He thought about if for a little while and then said, “Well, I’d reach out to some mentors and start figuring out how to create this investment deal. I’d research what would make it work for them, that kinda thing.”
“And do you really need to quit your job in order to do that?”
Silence. (Jeopardy theme)
“Uh, no. I guess not.”
Here’s the deal. Our fears love to keep us in a rigid, all or nothing mindset. Our resistance cooks up a story that says creating what we most want is going to be high intensity, high danger, and high drama. But the reality is that the work itself isn’t that dramatic. The process is not remarkable.
When we can see the resistance for what it is — fear of the unknown — we can just do the steps right in front of us. We can simply start. And usually starting means doing something really basic like having some conversations or learning some new skills.
This idea that we have to make some big dramatic, scary move before we can start is just not true. Break it down. Clarify that first step. And then get to work. Most of the time we’ll find that there’s no need to jeopardize our families or our lifestyle in order to do that.
Talk’s cheap so let’s test it. What’s that big idea that you have that you think is going to disrupt your entire life? Now imagine that you had all of the resources and green lights in front of you. What’s the very next step you would take?
Chances are it’s a small one. And so is the next one after that. Hire a coach or join a quality mastermind group so that you continue to take effective action, and you’ll be amazed at the progress you’ll make in a matter of months — all without blowing up what you care about most.
Here’s to living with greater freedom, aliveness, peace, and love. Thanks for watching.