The Truth About Relationships – Neil Strauss (Replay)
Note: This is a previously released interview from The New Man. It’s been a while since it was published, but the valuable ideas are still just as relevant today. Here’s an opportunity to listen again or for the first time. Enjoy!
What do you say to your wife so she doesn’t get upset?
And is your relationship something that supports you to live an amazing life or is it a cage of rules and limitations?
Neil Strauss is here to discuss the cost of dishonesty and what he’s learned from his journey through infidelity, sex addiction rehab, open relationships, polyamory, swinging, sex clubs, and now marriage and fatherhood.
In this interview:
- Sleeping with his girlfriend’s best friend
- Patterns of withholding information and the truth
- Going to rehab for sex addiction and/or love addiction
- Tantra, sex clubs, swingers, “the lifestyle”, polyamory, open relationships
- Living in a house with multiple women/sex partners
- How our relationships with our parents shape our romantic relationships
- Why his mother isn’t currently speaking to him
- Setting healthy boundaries with parents and loved ones
- Why Neil severely restricted phone and internet access for himself
- Dealing with anxiety thru porn, social media, and other distractions
- Finding power in being comfortable with yourself
- How to tell if you and your relationship need some help
- Books and workshops to consider if you want to explore them
- Tips for being honest with your partner (including my story about almost losing my mind on a beach in Hawaii)
- Resisting the temptation to hide and isolate
- The importance of mentors and being part of a group that talks openly and honestly about life
About Neil Strauss
Neil Strauss is a ten-time New York Times best-selling author. His books, The Game and Rules Of The Game, for which he went undercover in a secret society of pickup artists for two years, made him an international celebrity and an accidental hero to men around the world. Both books topped The New York Times best-seller list and were #1 on Amazon, and the former has the dubious distinction of being the most stolen book at Barnes & Noble besides The Bible.
In his follow-up book, The Truth: An Uncomfortable Book About Relationships, Strauss dives deep into the worlds of sex addiction, non-monogamy, infidelity, and intimacy, and explores the hidden forces that cause people to choose each other, stay together, and break up.
He was a music critic, cultural reporter, and columnist at The New York Times for a decade, where he won the ASCAP-Deems Taylor Award. He has also won awards for his cover stories for Rolling Stone, for which he’s well-known for earning the trust of some of the most guarded and secretive celebrities in the world. These interviews were collected in his best-selling book Everyone Loves You When You’re Dead.
His book Emergency, which Rolling Stone described as “an escape plan” for a “world in crisis,” spent three months on the New York Times bestseller list and cemented Strauss’s reputation as, in the words of Maxim magazine, “a George Plimpton for the 21st century.” While going undercover during these books, Strauss has been named everything from the best pickup artist in the world (by Associated Press during The Game) to receiving the Presidents Volunteer Service Award (for his search-and-rescue work during Emergency).
His other best-selling books include How to Make Love Like a Porn Star with Jenna Jameson, The Dirt with Motley Crue, and The Long Hard Road Out of Hell with Marilyn Manson. The Dirt was hailed by Q magazine as “the most unputdownable rock book of the year, or possibly any year,” while Publishers Weekly cited The Long Hard Road Out of Hell as “possibly the highest-selling rock biography of all time.”
Strauss has also contributed to Esquire, Maxim, Spin, Entertainment Weekly, Details, The Source, New York Newsday, and many other magazines and newspapers. He began his career on the staff of Village Voice while still a college undergraduate. In 1990, also while in college, he edited the book Radiotext(e) for the publisher Semiotext(e). Since then, his work has appeared in over thirty books.
Beyond journalism, Strauss has acted in everything from Curb Your Enthusiasm to rock videos by Beck and 30 Seconds to Mars. And he has appeared on The Jimmy Kimmel Show, The View, The Carson Daly Show, and dozens of other talk shows. He has written liner notes for albums by Nirvana; performed on albums by Marilyn Manson; and DJ’ed at clubs around the world. He also hosted his own interview show, The Inner Circle with Neil Strauss, on SiriusXM. And has written television shows for HBO, FX, and Cartoon Network.