Rat Racer Mentality: When the Best isn’t Enough

Do you feel like you should always be doing better with work, life, etc.?

Do you spend more time worrying about the future instead of enjoying the present?

And is there a deep fear that the success you have could be snatched away at any moment?

Today I have a fun conversation with a middle-aged business owner who’s done well for himself. But regardless of what he accomplishes, it never feels like enough.

Instead of enjoying his good fortune, he’s constantly focusing on the future. What’s missing. What needs to be better. What threats may be coming. As a result he’s chronically stressed and overwhelmed.

So we dive into his mindset to see what’s driving this constant need for more. And most importantly we help him clarify a version of success that he can actually enjoy.

In this interview:

  • Always needing “more”
  • Focusing on the future vs the present
  • Empty wins
  • The rat racer mentality
  • Unable to enjoy what you have


  • Needing to be the best
  • Comparisons to others
  • Fear of being irrelevant, weak
  • Making things harder than they need to be
  • Redefining success so that it’s rewarding

Discussed in this conversation:

Note: What you’re about to hear is an actual coaching call. The person being coached volunteered and gave explicit permission to have our conversation recorded for this podcast.

About Tripp Lanier

Tripp Lanier is a professional coach, author of This Book Will Make You Dangerous, and host of The New Man Podcast: Beyond the Macho Jerk and the New Age Wimp which — for over a decade — has been downloaded millions of times.

Since 2005, he has spent thousands of hours coaching people all around the world to get out of the rat race, become an authority in their field, and make a great living doing the work they were put on this earth to do. Over the years he’s designed several businesses to support a simple lifestyle focused on freedom, ease, meaning, and fun.

If you’d like to learn more about coaching with Tripp Lanier visit TrippLanier.com.