Getting Your Partner to Change — Alyson and Tripp Lanier

Do you wish you could change something about your partner?

Is there something about them that keeps you from committing?

And how is staying in the shallow end of the pool drowning your relationship?

My wife Alyson and I share a cup of coffee and flounder through a conversation about changing your partner, refusing to be the bad guy, and why it’s so important to keep your side of the street clean.

In this conversation:

  • To commit or not to commit
  • What if your partner never changes?
  • Can people grow and change for the better?
  • Problems: what’s a deal breaker?
  • Refusing to play the blame game


  • Cleaning up your side of the street
  • Treating your partner as the ‘bad guy’
  • Drifting apart as time goes by
  • What does it mean to be aligned?
  • Being stuck in the shallow end of the pool

About Tripp Lanier

Tripp Lanier is a professional coach, author of This Book Will Make You Dangerous, and host of The New Man Podcast: Beyond the Macho Jerk and the New Age Wimp which — for over a decade — has been downloaded millions of times.

Since 2005, he has spent thousands of hours coaching people all around the world to get out of the rat race, become an authority in their field, and make a great living doing the work they were put on this earth to do. Over the years he’s designed several businesses to support a simple lifestyle focused on freedom, ease, meaning, and fun.

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About Alyson Lanier

Alyson Lanier is a multifaceted expert at the intersection of psychological and spiritual healing. With a 30 year career in Psychotherapy that includes a BA, MA, and LPC in psychology, Alyson supplemented her education with extensive training and certifications in attachment work, Gestalt therapy, Transpersonal psychology, Shambhala Buddhism, internal family systems, and Psychedelic assisted psychotherapy. Her professional journey encompasses over 50,000 hours of therapeutic experience working with individuals, couples, families, children, and adolescents across clinical and private settings.

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