Going to War with Yourself — Alyson and Tripp Lanier

Do you ever feel like you’re at war with yourself?

Are the blind spots holding you back obvious to others?

And how can a wall become a potential pathway to get unstuck?

Today, my wife Alyson and I discuss how so many of us are striving to improve ourselves by going to war with ourselves. And we explore what ultimately brings us the emotional peace we hope that victory will bring.

In this conversation:

  • Forcing things, resistance, and Part X
  • Are your blind spots obvious to others?
  • Wanting to get rid of a part of you that you hate
  • Fear of losing control of your emotions
  • Constantly needing to defend


  • Tripp’s equine therapy story
  • The difference between pain and suffering
  • An integrative approach to finding wholeness
  • The importance of love, forgiveness, and acceptance
  • Duane Mullner and Duey Freeman

About Tripp Lanier

Tripp Lanier is a professional coach, author of This Book Will Make You Dangerous, and host of The New Man Podcast: Beyond the Macho Jerk and the New Age Wimp which — for over a decade — has been downloaded millions of times.

Since 2005, he has spent thousands of hours coaching people all around the world to get out of the rat race, become an authority in their field, and make a great living doing the work they were put on this earth to do. Over the years he’s designed several businesses to support a simple lifestyle focused on freedom, ease, meaning, and fun.

If you’d like to learn more about coaching with Tripp Lanier visit TrippLanier.com.

About Alyson Lanier

Alyson Lanier is a multifaceted expert at the intersection of psychological and spiritual healing. With a 30 year career in Psychotherapy that includes a BA, MA, and LPC in psychology, Alyson supplemented her education with extensive training and certifications in attachment work, Gestalt therapy, Transpersonal psychology, Shambhala Buddhism, internal family systems, and Psychedelic assisted psychotherapy. Her professional journey encompasses over 50,000 hours of therapeutic experience working with individuals, couples, families, children, and adolescents across clinical and private settings.

If you’d like to learn more about working with Alyson Lanier visit AlysonLanier.com.