Domestication: Is Marriage Killing Your Aliveness? — Alyson and Tripp Lanier

Is marriage a death sentence for the part of you that is wild?

Do you ever wonder what happened to fun, adventure, and spontaneity?

And how can we avoid becoming another Homer Simpson or turning our partner into a “ball and chain?”

Today Alyson and I dive into the topic of domestication. We explore how responsibilities and structure are necessary, but they don’t have to kill what makes us feel alive and free.

In this conversation:

  • Domestication
  • Do women struggle with domestication?
  • Family life and dying inside
  • The need for wonder and awe
  • The tendency to sleep walk through life


  • What is your North Star?
  • Protecting and nurturing our wildness
  • Being at war with ourselves
  • Expecting others to read our minds
  • Who is responsible for your happiness?

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About Tripp Lanier

Tripp Lanier is a professional coach, author of This Book Will Make You Dangerous, and host of The New Man Podcast: Beyond the Macho Jerk and the New Age Wimp which — for over a decade — has been downloaded millions of times.

Since 2005, he has spent thousands of hours coaching people all around the world to get out of the rat race, become an authority in their field, and make a great living doing the work they were put on this earth to do. Over the years he’s designed several businesses to support a simple lifestyle focused on freedom, ease, meaning, and fun.

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About Alyson Lanier

Alyson Lanier is a multifaceted expert at the intersection of psychological and spiritual healing. With a 30 year career in Psychotherapy that includes a BA, MA, and LPC in psychology, Alyson supplemented her education with extensive training and certifications in attachment work, Gestalt therapy, Transpersonal psychology, Shambhala Buddhism, internal family systems, and Psychedelic assisted psychotherapy. Her professional journey encompasses over 50,000 hours of therapeutic experience working with individuals, couples, families, children, and adolescents across clinical and private settings.

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