Feeling Pressured to Get Married — Alyson and Tripp Lanier

Do you feel pressured to get married because you’ve been with someone a long time?

Are you and your partner kicking the can down the road so you don’t have to face the reality of your challenges?

And how much longer can you tolerate your relationship if it doesn’t change for the better?

Today’s question comes from someone whose relationship is stuck in a rut. Their sex life is boring. They avoid difficult conversations, and he feels pressured to get married even though he has zero desire to commit. Is it possible to get things on a better trajectory?

In this conversation:

  • The relationship rut
  • Avoiding difficult conversations
  • Pressured to get married, start a family
  • An alternative to the ultimatum
  • Peace of mind to commit or leave


  • The danger of avoiding discomfort and challenge
  • Having a shared desired outcome
  • Telling the truth vs avoiding discomfort
  • Nice guy syndrome
  • The fear of dating again

Mentioned in this discussion:

About Tripp Lanier

Tripp Lanier is a professional coach, author of This Book Will Make You Dangerous, and host of The New Man Podcast: Beyond the Macho Jerk and the New Age Wimp which — for over a decade — has been downloaded millions of times.

Since 2005, he has spent thousands of hours coaching people all around the world to get out of the rat race, become an authority in their field, and make a great living doing the work they were put on this earth to do. Over the years he’s designed several businesses to support a simple lifestyle focused on freedom, ease, meaning, and fun.

If you’d like to learn more about coaching with Tripp Lanier visit TrippLanier.com.

About Alyson Lanier

Alyson Lanier is a multifaceted expert at the intersection of psychological and spiritual healing. With a 30 year career in Psychotherapy that includes a BA, MA, and LPC in psychology, Alyson supplemented her education with extensive training and certifications in attachment work, Gestalt therapy, Transpersonal psychology, Shambhala Buddhism, internal family systems, and Psychedelic assisted psychotherapy. Her professional journey encompasses over 50,000 hours of therapeutic experience working with individuals, couples, families, children, and adolescents across clinical and private settings.

If you’d like to learn more about working with Alyson Lanier visit AlysonLanier.com.