Finding Your Gold and Essential Nature — Alyson and Tripp Lanier

Do you ever feel like something is just not quite right with your life?

Do you have most of what you could want but still feel like something’s missing?

And who are you underneath that ambition to succeed and avoid failure?

Today Alyson and I talk about why so many folks feel empty inside even though they have amazing lives on the outside. We discuss what it means to find our gold, to reveal our essential nature, and what I call the “big imposter syndrome.”

In this conversation:

  • Finding your gold
  • Essence and essential nature
  • Feeling friction, anxiety, angst that something is out of tune
  • Forcing yourself to be someone you’re not
  • The temptation to sleepwalk through life


  • “The big imposter syndrome”
  • Blowing up your life in order to make a change
  • Fragile rich people
  • Pressure to make money with passion/purpose
  • What helps you access the deeper, bigger parts of who you are?

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About Tripp Lanier

Tripp Lanier is a professional coach, author of This Book Will Make You Dangerous, and host of The New Man Podcast: Beyond the Macho Jerk and the New Age Wimp which — for over a decade — has been downloaded millions of times.

Since 2005, he has spent thousands of hours coaching people all around the world to get out of the rat race, become an authority in their field, and make a great living doing the work they were put on this earth to do. Over the years he’s designed several businesses to support a simple lifestyle focused on freedom, ease, meaning, and fun.

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About Alyson Lanier

Alyson Lanier is a multifaceted expert at the intersection of psychological and spiritual healing. With a 30 year career in Psychotherapy that includes a BA, MA, and LPC in psychology, Alyson supplemented her education with extensive training and certifications in attachment work, Gestalt therapy, Transpersonal psychology, Shambhala Buddhism, internal family systems, and Psychedelic assisted psychotherapy. Her professional journey encompasses over 50,000 hours of therapeutic experience working with individuals, couples, families, children, and adolescents across clinical and private settings.

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