Why We Don’t Follow Through

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TweetMy coaching client thought something was wrong with him because he wouldn’t follow through on his agreements. And then he finally gave himself a challenge that mattered. He followed through. And now he sees that there’s nothing wrong. It’s like the pro that’s...

Are You Acting Like Prey?

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TweetToday I ran an experiment with my coaching groups. I asked them to share the most reassuring thing they could hear, what they would most want to know. You know what it was? They wanted to hear, “Everything is okay. You’re okay. You’re going to be okay.” This was...

Zombie Dick Hair or Why Have Fun First?

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TweetWhy have fun first? Because using pressure and pain and fear is a lazy way to motivate ourselves. It’s less effective, too. So what’s more effective? On a recent call with one of my coaching groups we were discussing how play has helped them do amazing things in...

Where to Find Your Mojo

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Tweet“I’ve lost my mojo. I don’t know where to find it.” Many times when we’ve lost our mojo, we retreat and wait for it to show up. This is scary. “Will I ever feel strong again?” But our mojo isn’t found on the sidelines or in the stands. Our mojo is found on the...

Why I got tired of playing with myself

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TweetAs a young guitarist, I used to find a lot of meaning playing music by myself for hours alone in my bedroom. That got boring after a while. Why? Because I’d joined a band. That’s where we felt most alive and connected — those moments where we clicked together and...