What’s Better Than Being Productive?

TweetNo matter the pay-grade, it’s common to meet the overwhelmed guy. Under pressure. He’s too busy. He’s got too much to do in too little time. Our culture seems to reward this. “Hey Joe! How you doin’, buddy?” “Stayin’ busy!” says Joe. Like that’s a good thing. If...

Mental Toughness and Inner Authority

TweetHe said to me, “I want you to help me develop mental toughness.” “What for?” I asked. “I make great money but my job is very high pressure. There are a lot of big personalities. A lot of jerks. I have to deal with a lot of BS,” he said. “So you want me to help...

Why You’re Probably Not That Stuck

Tweet“What is the one question — that if you knew the answer — would change everything for you?” I asked. “I don’t understand,” he said. “You’ve been telling me all about your problem. You’ve been explaining why things aren’t working. You’ve been telling me that...

That Time I Helped a Guy Who Thought He Was Going to Die

TweetIt was a beautiful day. I was surfing perfect, little waves in crystal clear water. And then I heard the yell. I looked around but didn’t see anything. There it was again — another yell. I looked into shore and a few hundred yards away I saw a guy waving his arm....

When Guys Get Pregnant and Other Tensions

TweetI talk to many guys who tell me their lives or careers have plateaued. No matter how successful they’ve become, things feel small and flat or boring. When I dig a little deeper I find that many of these guys are avoiding some form of tension or discomfort....