Tripp Lanier is a men’s coach and host of The New Man Podcast. He coaches and teaches men all around the world how to break out of mediocre lives and create the careers and relationships they really want.
As a host, he’s interviewed experts and authors from all walks of life including Tim Ferriss, Laird Hamilton, Ken Wilber, Dan Millman, Marcus Buckingham, Bill Harris, Steven Pressfield, AJ Jacobs, Chip Conley, Dr. Robert Glover, and Shawn Phillips.
The New Man Podcast reaches thousands of people in over 110 countries and regularly finds its home on the iTunes Self Help Top 10 list.
Highlights and Embarrassing Videos
Influences and Teachers
Tripp has had the privilege of studying with many amazing people — many bald people, in fact — including Ken Wilber, Jun Po Denis Kelly & The Hollow Bones Order of Rinzai Zen, Genpo Roshi and Big Mind, David Deida, Vipassana (S.N. Goenka), Authentic World (Authentic Man Program), The Taoist Tai Chi Society just to name a few.
Tripp started a media production company 5 months after graduating from Florida State University. This company was profitable every year, and he sold it after 12 years regardless of the fact that during his attendance FSU was the #1 party school in the nation.
The focus of Tripp’s life for many years was writing, performing, and producing music. One of his projects, Screaming Witness, is featured in this video with producer Alex Gibson.
Acting Like a Drunk Redneck, Etc.
Perhaps you can see why Tripp’s acting career never took off in this commercial for Alco-Hard — a pill for maintaining erections while inebriated.
In this video, Tripp interviews Tripp about his idea for a TV show. Yes, you read that right, and yes that is seriously narcissistic.
And check out this April Fool’s video “exposing” Tripp’s morally questionable coaching techniques with some of the world’s most morally questionable men. Remember — it’s an April Fool’s video.
“Why Did I Leave an Ideal Life to Do This?”
From Tripp: Here are three huge life lessons that are at the core of my coaching.
Lesson #1 – Discovering Emotional Power
I spent years living as a controlling, fearful, posturing boy in a man’s body. Why? After my mother’s suicide when I was 13, I tried to ignore my emotional world and the tremendous shame and grief I had buried. I was scared of loving and being loved. I saw the world as a collection of threats instead of a magnificent place to explore.
After 13 years of exhaustive running, I finally learned the power of surrender. In my darkest moment, I learned how to forgive. I learned that real power and confidence comes from embracing fears and the confusing world of emotions.
The event that had weakened me for so long became what made me stronger, resilient, and compassionate. After turning this corner, I was curious about the world, relationships, and love. I was more confident, more whole. This has helped me enjoy everything in my life so much more.
A big part of why I coach and host The New Man is because when I needed that support and information, it wasn’t there.
The Big Takeaway?
Learning how to harness and embrace your emotional world leads to experiencing greater power and joy in whatever you do. Ignore your emotional world and not only does life become a train you can’t outrun, but you’re a fraction of the man you can be.
Lesson #2 – Doing What You Love vs Playing it Safe
By the time I was 30 I had a successful creative media production company. I was traveling around the country recording and performing with my band. I had a beautiful, funny young woman who wanted to get married and have my children. And I wasn’t fulfilled.
What was wrong with me?
When I looked around and compared myself to others, I felt validated externally. I was kicking ass. But I was asking myself, “Shouldn’t I feel satisfied?” I was trying to convince myself that I was happy.
But I didn’t want to convince myself. I wanted to feel it. I wanted to know it.
I was really good at criticizing what wasn’t right, but things changed dramatically when I shifted my focus to what I wanted to create. I got clear that I wanted to do work that helped others. I got clear about the type of marriage I wanted. I got clear about the types of people I wanted to surround myself with.
What happened? I ended the relationship and sold my house and business. I moved across the country to surround myself with amazing people doing the things I wanted to learn how to do. I watched my bank account bleed cash. I lost sleep. I married the most amazing woman I’ve ever met. I faced confusion and uncertainty. I took risks. I failed. I took more risks. I learned how to coach and help others confront the same challenges I had faced. I fell ass-backwards into hosting a podcast. I found a way to help men all around the world in a way that felt easy and fun to me. I found a way to create a business that allowed me to live anywhere (near the water so I can surf and paddle board). I found a way to create my own spacious schedule. I became a father. I continue to take risks, learn, fall down, and get back up.
I now use this experience to help the few men on this planet that want to step out of their own “safe” lives and create what is actually fulfilling.
The Big Takeaway?
Life changed when I stopped comparing myself to others and created a life that actually felt fulfilling. This process led me through great uncertainty, but I would never trade it for the “safe” life I left behind.
Lesson #3 – I Couldn’t Do it Alone
I could not have learned these massive lessons without the help of others — friends, therapists, coaches, teachers.
We watch and expect professional athletes to have the best help they can get. We expect them to have someone in their corner to support them in doing their best.
How can we expect ourselves to do our best without someone in our own corner?
If you’re interested in talking to me directly about how coaching can benefit you, then click here to learn to answer a few questions. I’ll respond via email to discuss the next steps.
What is The New Man: Beyond the Macho Jerk and the New Age Wimp?
The New Man Podcast is personal development for guys who think, “self help is for losers.”
The New Man Podcast reaches thousands of people in over 110 countries around the world providing entertaining, practical and often humorous advice on every area of a man’s life — relationships, sex, dating, career, money, power, purpose, inner game, lifestyle design, spirituality, and fitness.
So Why Should You Care about The New Man Podcast?
Let’s face it — being a forward thinking man in the 21st Century is confusing. The archetypes of the past are finished.
As glamorous as it might seem, Don Draper’s womanizing, boozing version of a man would be in sex and alcohol rehab within 15 minutes today.
In our increasingly-connected society John Wayne’s stoic-lone-wolf-type would be left on a street corner begging for change.
And who wants to be the “nice-guy-new-age-wimp” whose spineless tendencies make him a doormat for women and the world to walk over?
It’s time for The New Man — the 21st century man who goes beyond the macho jerk and the new age wimp. The man who navigates relationships and work with brains, balls and heart.
Each interview explores topics like:
- Attracting a quality woman without playing “Pickup Artist” (PUA) games or seduction tricks
- Having an exciting sex life no matter how long you’ve been married
- Navigating the sticky world of relationships
- Stop waiting to do what you really want to do in life
- Breaking out of a confining job and getting paid to do what you love
- Finding your purpose and living a passionate life
- Getting a handle on fear and beating resistance
- Developing the best physical, mental and emotional practices so you don’t play small
- Living a life with brains, heart, guts and balls
- Handling career transitions
- Going through break-ups
- Dealing with uncertainty
- Recovering from “The Nice Guy Syndrome”